INTRODUCTION
The couple therapy for domestic violence in anger management session is not much different from one-to-one therapy. The couple therapy process is in many ways is similar to one-to-one session. It is similar in that that on the assessment which is ongoing, the key issues are highlighted. The therapist aims to identify what are the red flags that set off your anger, your communication style is reviewed and any issues with it that could maintain the outburst of anger and a careful history is collected in order to determine the key points during the development of the anger issues. This ongoing assessment is also accompanied with a weekly suggestions how the issues could be resolved and a tailor-made plan is updated week by week to improve the quality of your relationship and to contain the disordered anger.The couple therapy also aims to supply clients with assignments to advance the progress outside of the sessions. This is because you cannot expect a life-long anger management problems that took you over two hundred thousands hours to develop to be fixed in five hours of your life.
ONE-TO-ONE SESSIONS AS PART OF THE COUPLE ANGER MANAGEMENT THERAPY
In some cases, couples might require an in-depth one-to-one session to work on a deeper or longer-term issues that go back to childhood and could maintain the outbursts of anger. It needs to be considered that the sixty minutes of your couple therapy session for anger management is split between the three people which is the couple and the therapist. The hour might not provide enough room to explore in-depth issues and therefore expect if deeper issues will be highlighted you might be suggested one-to-one sessions with the same therapist.
THE UNCONSCIOUS NEGATIVE BEHAVIOURAL PATTERNS IN THE HIGH CONFLICT COUPLE
So far, this article discussed what happens in the couple anger management therapy and it was highlighted that is is not much different from one-to-one session. But there is one key difference that distinguishes couple therapy from the one-to-one session and which makes it therapeutically and in terms of progress much more valuable. It is the advantage of the unconsciousness which at times might not be available to the therapist straight away without the help of the input the other partner who has a better knowledge of either partner’s behavioural negative patterns. The cognitive psychologists long-time ago found out that the unconscious processes are often automatic, carried automatically by our mind and do not require conscious effort. It is because of this that our partners feel nagged by us when we try to discuss these negative behavioural patterns they might be unaware of that they are doing.
THE NEUTRAL OBJECTIVE FRESH FEEDBACK FROM THE THIRD UNBIASED PERSON, THE THERAPIST
Often when a relationship has gone through a longer-term difficult period, clients will arrive for the session already fed up and not trusting each others feedback. They try to to put across their point about the negative automatic unconscious behaviour pattern that lead to anger management issues, but they will be dismissed and will not feel heard by their partners who by now have stopped trusting them. It is at this point that the therapist’s feedback will be invaluable. This is because a well-trained therapist, will maintain a fresh unbiased objective point of view and will provide clients with an opinion and feedback that should stop the mistrusting power-struggle arguments for once and all together with a solution focused approach to the anger issue. An important point to mention, is that the therapist will never take either client’s side, which some of us need in times of the high conflict. Don’t despair the conflict will be resolved and you will be provided with a good anger management techniques to resolve it confidently on your own.
THE TIME IT TAKES TO SEE A PROGRESS
Recently a furious client, suggested that it would have been inconvenient to wait over ten years for the partner to develop and grow into a better person through the anger management sessions. Although the prospect of the couple anger management sessions can be terrifying and worrying, as time is indeed precious to all of us, I can confirm it is a huge assumption to think that to start seeing any changes it would take as much as ten years. The good news is that if you invest into six months of weekly sessions which equals to twenty four hours anger management sessions you are guaranteed to see positive changes. On average I see clients making positive progress already within three months of the weekly sessions which equals twelve hours of therapy. If you expect to make a progress with three brushed off couple therapy anger management sessions, which in proportion to a many years it took you to develop your angry ways is unrealistic, expect to relapse and slip into your old dysfunctional argumentative volatile ways that could end up at your local police station or family court.
SUMMARY
I hope this article gave you some insight into how the couple therapy at the ANGER MANAGEMENT CENTRAL LONDON sessions would work, always try to start the earlier rather than later and remember our impatience hinders anger and a patience is a virtue that will pay off in the long-term.